Elizabeth Edwards’ Gift (Just Weeks Ago)
What I will remember about Elizabeth Edwards is the gift she gave me less than nine weeks ago at the Livingston Economic Club, held at Cleary University in Howell, MI. I was privileged to be in attendance and even meet her in a small reception prior to her speech. I think it’s her last public speaking engagement.
She was gracious and kind. Her words, on stage and in face-t0-face had the depth of someone who understood that life on this side of the veil was short. She admitted that even though she stayed the night before right next to Tanger Outlet Mall, shopping did not hold the same appeal. She was honest and forthright.
What was most enduring was her calm and sensitive spirit. You could see it in her smile, sense it in words, and even as she signed dozens and dozens of autographs after her speech. She looked every person in the eye and smiled with radiancy. Virtually depleted, she mustered enough strength for the moment. I spent minutes just watching her interact.
The last posting on her Facebook page reflected her enduring spirit,
“I have found that in the simple act of living with hope, and in the daily effort to have a positive impact in the world, the days I do have are made all the more meaningful and precious.”
I was given a gift on October 7, 2010. I think I appreciate it even more today.
There’s a Deeper Story
As a child in elementary school I remember listening to Christmas music played on the record player next to the fire place. Bing Crosby and Andy Williams were juxtaposed with Roger Wagner and the Dale Warland Singers. In many instances the same songs; one version pop and the other classic carols. Years ago my father purchased a Bose system and ditched his records. I was the beneficiary of the record collection.
This past weekend I pulled out the collection of well over two dozen albums. While I have downloaded many of them as Mp3′s, there is something about the shape, texture, and scope of a record and the jacket cover. As the needle glides over the vinyl I pick up the cover and can actually read it. The size affords the opportunity for information and often story. I was intrigued by the following:
“In our restless age, the carols serve to reconnect us with the long chain of faith and tradition that stretches back into the antiquity from which many of the carols stem. Christmas carols have provoked a great deal of scholarship, and we now know that some of them had anything but Christian origins…just as the mistletoe, holly, and yule log, which now firmly entrenched Christian symbols, were, to begin with, part of pagan ritual.”
Things are not always as they seem. When we allow ourselves to step out of our “Me-universe” and connect ourselves to history, we find that our story is merely one that connects to stories of others. While our world-view seems very real there is more going on than meets the eye. We are an ever-changing, evolving people. Yet there are threads of consistency and even clarity. There’s a deeper story.
At this time of year much of the world seeks to connect our story with a grater meta-narrative, the essence of which provides grounding and hope, even clarity for faith. One such Christmas tradition that has stood the test of time is the creche: the symbol of Mary, Joseph, and baby Jesus in a manger. The jacket cover reminded me of the story:
St. Francis of Assisi set up the first creche in his parish church at Graecia, Italy, attempting to humanize the Christmas story and bring it closer to the experience and understanding of his parishoners. The custom of decorating the creche, along with the bringing of gifts and the singing of special Nativity songs which accompanied it, quickly spread throughout Europe and, blending with the pre-existing winter solstice customs of the various lands, emerged as the Christmas ceremony we know today.
There’s a deeper story. St. Francis wanted the people to “get it.” As a passionate man he wanted people to somehow move the story of the birth of Jesus from their head to their heart; to make it real.
Saint Bonaventure, Francis’s biographer, said of the scene, “Many brothers and good people came at Francis’s bidding, and during the night the weather also was beautiful. Many lights were kindled, songs and hymns were sung with great solemnity so that the whole wood echoed with the sound , and the man of God stood by the manger, filled with the utmost joy, and shedding tears of devotion and compassion..sang the gospel and preached to the people on the Nativity of Christ our King, and whenever he pronounced his name with infinite tenderness he called Him the ‘little Babe of Bethlehem.’” (Nesta Robeck, The Christmas Crib, Milwaukee: Bruce Publishing Company, 1956, p. 45-47.)
What if…we took a moment to reflect on the deeper story?
All About The STORY and the LESSON!
When the weekly edition of Sports Illustrated arrives it isn’t the first priority read. ( I know what you’re thinking…except for the Swim Suit edition
but I’m not going there!) The magazine gets placed on the top of a pile awaiting a thirty minute time frame for me to look at the “Leading Off” pictures and then scan the “Lineup” for stories. I wouldn’t consider myself an avid fan of sports as much as I am interested in the stories of sports, this week being no exception. For instance:
My DVR is not set to record the major events of tennis. However, I was interested in why Serna Williams just might be labeled “the greatest female player of her generation…or greatest of all.”
I attend one Tiger’s game a year and do not watch regular season games. However, I am drawn to the story of the why the Pittsburg Pirates are a “futile franchise.”
Whether it’s Michael Phelps’s training routine (including the Ann Arbor restaurants he frequented), Brett Favre’s indecisiveness, the blown-call by an ump in Detroit which really stole a perfect game from pitcher Armando Galarraga, or Phil Mickelson’s triumphs on the golf course and support of his cancer-stricken wife, I am more of a reader of the stories than a watcher of the event.
It’s the stories which lure me. Personal stories: more than just winning and defeat, failure and success. It is the narrative of life. It’s about facing challenges – imposed by self-debilitating choices, other’s self-absorption, or simply part of life’s ebb-and-flow. It is about persevering in spite of all odds to do the right thing as much as it is about facing the consequences with integrity and grace. Stories elicit feelings of empathy, inspiration, encouragement, sadness, wonder, et cetera.
Given my life’s passion to help people Transform Their Life this probably isn’t surprising. It is rare for me not to find a lesson in each story on which I ponder and given my propensity to teach, often share with a willing or not-so-willing listener.
Since you’ve read this far in today’s blog you can make the choice to be today’s listener:
Don Coryell – the “Godfather” of today’s NFL passing game recently passed away. While a feature piece, surprisingly that isn’t THE story. Rather it is a short inset entitled “Good Things Were Going To Happen” (by Tim Layden). Hall of Fame quarterback Dan Fouts recounted Coryell’s unique approach to the game and the players: “There was a feeling that you wanted to be there [practice], you wanted to be on the field, because good things were going to happen.”
What type of coach would create such an anticipatory and positive culture? Fouts recalls, “I don’t ever remember him going crazy mad at someone. I know he never had a cross word for me…He was just so positive.” There’s the lesson. He kept the players focused on the goal and lived with a positive attitude. We may not be in a position to affect the entire culture of the organizations with which we associate but there is a narrative we can write: our approach to life. Keep our eyes on the goal and be positive!
Let me know how you’re doing…