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Notice the Ashes

There will be people today who choose to celebrate this day, Ash Wednesday – the beginning of Lent – by having ashes placed on their forehead.  Lent begins a forty day season in the Liturgical Church Year where people are encouraged to give attention to their inner journey of faith.  While this is mostly practiced by mainline denominations around the world, the rest of us can take notice.

The familiar Lenten question is, “What are you giving up for Lent?” That is a good question but it isn’t the real focus of the season. Giving up seems to direct the focus toward us; making self-denial and our ability to control life and our future, the actual goal. Yet, that was not the genesis of this season. 

Ironically, Lent falls when winter and spring vie for dominance in the weather pattern. The symbolism is stark. What will vie for our attention?

At some level we know there are the noisy din of voices that in some fashion shout that we are no good, ugly, worthless, despicable, or nobody – unless we can somehow demonstrate the opposite. These negative voices are so loud and persistent that it is easy to believe them. If we approach self-denial, or Lent for that matter, with the goal of proving that we are somebody and that if we just do a little more, then our efforts will only suffice to fuel the negative voices.

So what’s the point with ashes?

Ashes, from the burned branches of last year’s Palm Sunday celebration are placed on the forehead as a symbolic gesture signifying that we are human; finite and mortal. This isn’t meant to be morbid. Rather, it is meant to limit our grandiosity and help us stay in touch with the real human condition that we all share. Reminding us that everything we work for turns to ash in the end. It’s a challenge to admit that everything we worked for eventually turns to ash, but as a friend told me, “it’s also liberating. It frees us from the misplaced and destructive notion that we are defined by our achievements and lauded because of our accomplishments.”

Today, if you see someone with ashes on their forehead, take a moment to notice!

Spend a couple of minutes reflecting on the voices that get your attention. Be aware of what may be driving you. And, if you dare, stay with the silence long enough to listen to a still, small voice that may be calling you to something deeper, something more true. It just may be calling your heart to a real place of rest.

My Holiday Ice-Breaker

In previous posts I’ve written about the importance of asking questions and then pausing to listen, really listen for the answer. This season I’ve taken the opportunity on two ocassions to practice a form of “ice-breaker.” It’s not profound or for that matter, highly original. Yet, both times it has produced some great conversation and has been a spring-board for some wonderful reminiscing as people share their story.

This holiday season isn’t just about Christmas. For me, there is also Advent. Liturgical churches, like the one I grew up in, celebrate Advent (from the Latin word adventus meaning “coming”). It is observed to focus our thoughts on waiting and preparation for the celebration of the Nativity of Jesus at Christmas; including the Advent wreath, candles, calendars, and specfic carols of this season.

My holiday ice-breaker goes something like this, “Share with us an Advent or Christmas carol or memory, from your child-hood or today, and what it means to you.” Some of the responses have been:

  • I’ve never heard of Advent until this year and I’m growing to appreciate it’s significance.
  • My family gathers around the Advent wreath and after dinner we light the specific candles of the week and share some spiritual conversation.
  • As a kid I remember that when another candle was lit on the Advent wreath it meant another week closer to Christmas presents. Therefore, more fire…presents are coming!
  • My grandparents were German and never spoke english. So, when I was a child and memorized a verse of “Silent Night” in German, I felt connected to them; remembering the German verse to this day.
  • I remember an entire worship gathering around the Advent carol of “Oh Come, Oh Come, Emmanuel.”
  • I came from a large family and my favorite aunt handed Christmas presents to everyone in our family, except me. I cried!

These are just a few of the comments, all of which sparked some form of laughter, empathy, or even more questions to learn more. BTW…one of my favorite carols is, “Es is ein Rose entsprungen.”

Give yourself a gift this Advent season…ask an ice-breaker question.

Wedding Day!

Today my son, Nathan and Angela Gawne are getting married. Friends, turned lovers, now become husband and wife.

It will be beautiful today!

  • Pre-service music: Gershwin love songs performed by Angela’s voice instructor and his wife. During the ceremony…a solo by another vocal major.
  • Great organist and classic processional and recessional (leaving to “The Throne Room” Starwars).
  • The decorations at the church and reception are fall colors.
  • Our family and friends are gathered to celebrate with us.
  • The party will be fun.

Yes, I will be officiating. The question most often asked me, “Will you cry?”  My answer, “Absolutely!”

Deb and I are thrilled for Nate and Angela. We pray for hope and courage in their life and know that God will continue to give them His loving-kindness.

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